Why do People Shout in Anger? 

A sage, with his disciples, was taking a morning stroll by the Ganges and chanting the holy names. There was a couple at a distance, they were distressed and shouting at each other. It turned out that man’s wife had lost her necklace of gold while taking a dip in the Ganges. Her husband unleashed a flurry of filthy slur and she was shouting back no less.

The saint stopped, turned towards his disciples and said, “When people are angry, why do they shout at each other?”

One of the disciples replied, “Because when we lose our calm, we shout.”

“Granted,” said the sage, “but, why should you raise your voice when the other person is just next to you? It’s not that he’s hearing you better that way. You can still make your point without shouting at the top of your voice.”

They offered various answers, none with any revelation.

Finally, the sage spoke:

“Anger immediately creates a distance. When two people are angry at each other, their hearts are no longer close, their emotions are divided and they go miles apart. To cover that distance they yell. The angrier they are, the louder they shout. They are no longer in mode of love, of acceptance, of proximity. They are unable to hear each other, shouting is how they believe they can be heard.

“And! what happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, they almost whisper, because their hearts are very close. There’s little or no distance between them.

“When they love each other even more, they exchange even less words, more softly, they murmur, they whisper, yet they hear each other better, their bond strengthens, their love prospers. Finally, they may not even whisper, they only look at each other, silence becomes more potent than speech, that’s how close two people can get when they are in love.

“So when you argue do not say words that break your bond of love and make you distant from each other.”

~ Author Unknown ~

Love Care Life 爱心关怀生命陪伴你勇敢面对一切在你人生中正在发生或已发生的打击与创伤,
又如果你是属于不善沟通者, 害羞内向,希望在自我空间里进行自我疗愈与应对你的问题。
希望我们Love Care Life的网络义工们专为你而设计的相关内容能帮助到你早日走出人生的低潮期。
Keep Fighting! Don’t Give Up Yourself! Love Life!

Leave a Reply

Translate »